Lately I've found myself stumbling on great stuff that just really hits home with healing, so I take out my phone and snap a picture. I'm posting them all here so I don't lose them in the mass of selfies my kids have been taking.
Seriously. THE MASS.
A poem from my husband's cousin's funeral program.
"You're alone. No one understands you, no one is talking about this. You're the only one."
I know it's not true, and yet...
In my increase of logging off, I've picked up Jane Eyre again. Have you ever read it? There's a lot of truth in it.
Here's some words of wisdom from Helen Burns (may she rest in fictional literature peace):
So glad I wrote this down to rediscover a few days ago:
And lastly is an original work of art brought to you by me and Lifestar. Or should that read "Lifestar and I"?
I was supposed to come up with an artistic representation of what codependency looks like to me.
As I thought about this, and I thought about how I feel about codependency... I came up with a collage.
First I want to just get this out there: I do struggle with control. I want to control people and things and places and situations, and YES even movie plot lines. THAT ties into codependency.
And when you tie in the trauma survival technique of doing codependent things... you get a pretty nice mess of a girl sitting on rock bottom with a blanket and a few boxes of Little Debbie snacks.
What does that world look like to me? How has it shaped my life?
I put my phone on mute and listened in on a recovery meeting as I pulled out my old magazines and started tearing. I penciled in some train tracks in the middle of the page, glued a train on top... then glued my face UNDER the train tracks and heavy, black train.
I tore strips of black pages up and glued them around the train: fear, shame...
I carefully cut out bright patterns and colors that caught my eye. I glued them around me.
I know I have worth. I know I'm a beautiful creation with tastes and gifts and purpose! I believe in the girl who lives a creative life of bright colors and crazy ideas.
But when shame comes.
When fear creeps.
Worried about what others think, afraid of rejection, of being alone, of being left...
That's what codependency means to me.
But you know what I did today? I cancelled three piano lessons on today's roster because they were just too much.
I was afraid of upsetting parents, but I did it.
Now there's less time for overscheduledness and more time for Jane Eyre and watermelon.