Not so very long ago, I listened to Elder Holland give a definition of The Soul. It isn't synonymous with "spirit" but the combination of the body AND spirit. I've known that, I guess. But something about that has hit home over and over again since then.
My body loves this earth -it loves to binge on food, chocolate and Dr. Pepper. It loves television and money and flesh. It has such an appetite.
My spirit loves heaven -it misses heaven. I loves love, charity, beauty, grace, family.
If I could create a cool Venn Diagram, I would. But all cards on the table, I had to spend a full 2 minutes googling around because I couldn't remember what the name of those circle chart thingies are.
You will forever evade me.
There is a hefty beautiful overlap between my body and my spirit. It's filled with good music, beach sand, pine trees, miles of flat desert and fresh air. Sometimes I lock eyes with my daughter and touch heaven. Meditation brings me to the pearly gates. Pushing my cold hands into warm, soapy water as the sun sets beyond the window that sits over my sink... that is one of those moments.
I disrupt harmony by listening to music that isn't the best. I have the utmost respect for Eminem's talent. That man has a WAY with words. When I turn up one of his classics, there's a disruption in harmony -a dissonance. I feel the same way after spending an entire day binge watching a series.
My Dissonance Moments quickly bring out my shame.
In the spirit of, "Inside Out" I will just say this: 78% of the "driving" in my mind is done by Self-Judgement.
I can't decide if she looks like a witch or demon or just a droopy, sad figure.
Maybe she doesn't even know.
My shame is mostly self-judgement.
How could you?
You piece of crap.
Those who know better, do better. Except you. Because you're a freak.
You drive people away.
You're screwing up your kids.
The list goes on, but I'm feeling some pain here... so I'll stop.
How do I turn my dissonance back into harmony? Christ.
I don't always do that, though. Sometimes I reach for my measuring cups and my Doris Day Pandora station and I cook while she sings about pillow talk and black hills. Harmony and balance start to creep back in. I like to deny stuff. I like to deny my worth:
I don't matter enough to Christ.
I'm not important. He is. And He's got enough to deal with, thankyouverymuch.
I'm realizing that I deny my body A LOT. I don't want to face the appetites of my body. I don't want to hold a very clean mirror up and look at myself objectively and say, "Okay, you want ALL OF THAT. Now what?"
If I hide my body's appetites -even from myself -what the hell am I even doing here?
How can I possibly fully heal? How can I live genuinely from my beautiful soul? I'm slamming half of it down daily.
In some of my reading, I came across a quote.
I spent some time with it and made it fancy so it would be sure to know how much I appreciate it:
Can I do that?
The past says, "no."
Am I brave enough to make this kind of an inventory? To write down:
Who my body is
What my body wants
Who my spirit is
What my spirit wants
Look it over objectively without leaning toward one team or the other because THEY ARE THE SAME SOUL TEAM and then just
This is Step One. Acceptance. I know I'm not the only one out there saying, "I will forever be on Step 1."
I think I've had times where I've thought, "I accept me. SO GRATEFUL because self-acceptance is a sucky bucket of a journey." But now I realize I've only accepted *parts* of me...
The parts of me that talk too much
The parts of me that look for humor everywhere
The parts of me that parent differently
The parts of me that won't ever look like they did when I was 21.
But what about the parts I've denied?
Heaven help me. This is going to be such a sucky bucket.
But as a music major, can I just say? Harmony is worth it. Dissonance is just the worst.
I've spent so much time playing God -trying to save myself, trying to save others. But I've also spent so. much. energy judging. I judge myself, I judge others.
These realizations will be painful, they will be me stepping into my mess. I don't know what the ending result will be, not completely. But I do know that I will come out of it with peace, and with that Soul Peace, I will be able to withhold self-judgement and others-judgement.
I will render unto God that which is God's... my demons.
A few days ago, I heard this song in the back of my mind. I began humming as I walked around my house. When I had a minute, I pulled it up on youtube. When God wants to tell me something, He pops a song in my head. The message in this song felt Godless, so I listened to it until I found God.
God's telling me He wants my demons. But in order to give them over, I have to recognize them. This means I'll sit in church and wonder who I am really. Who everyone around me is. I have to let myself down, let my self-judgement fall as I take God's name upon me each week.
I'm handing my judgement over, Lord.
I will sit fallen next to other fallen people. I will let myself fall. I will let others fall.
Can I face this? Not alone.
I can't escape this now unless You show me how.