Arizona Monsoons are brilliant.
Arizona Deserts are moody and impatient. They turn from parched to drenched in seconds and right back again.
Last night, we saw a storm in the distance. We gathered up mowers and toys, moved the dogs inside, filled our little oil lamp up, and unplugged big, expensive electronics. The storm moved quickly in, lighting up the sky.
Rain pelted everything.
Danny stopped up leaks in our leaky house (leaky houses are more healthy than unleaky houses, just so ya know) and I played the piano.
Our kids tried to relax, but with each big BOOM their eyes got wider. They looked to us for our reaction... if Mom is okay, then I'll be okay.
"Aren't you glad we live in this little cozy house?" I came up to my kids from behind and wrapped my arms around them, tickling them as I added, "Instead of a GIANT HAUNTED MANSION?!?!"
They squealed and screamed and ironically relaxed a little.
I went into my room to get more yarn for the scrap blanket I'm crocheting (gotta do something with all this sick time. Hey! Why not make an ugly blanket for the kids to fight over when I'm gone?) and realized as I switched the light in my room on that I was
The fear dark thunderstorms bring is familiar. It's the same now as it was when I was 8.
The darkness is what does it. I've literally slept through a Monsoon Flood during the middle of the afternoon. But a darkened storm? My timbers shiver.
I realize the storm, the rumblings and the grumblings, brought on the same stress that my marriage used to (and sometimes still). You never know when there's going to be a BOOM big enough to rattle you, and the only clarity you're given is bright, instantaneous flashes of light so electric they can almost be blinding.
In the darkest place of my marriage, those electric lights were just as scary as the thunder that followed. In fact, the closer the light came -the more and more I saw what I could do and started DOING IT -the louder the thunder got, the more the storm raged around me.
With each brilliant flash, I was scared.
Could I stand up for myself?
Could I say I was unhappy?
I eventually would when it seemed that any other option (meaning NOT speaking up) seemed more hellish than I could fathom. The ending result was MORE light. And, unfortunately, more storm.
I was scared to change, scared to detach from the dark storm, scared of confrontation, scared that I wouldn't be enough on my own.
Lightening is confident. It makes everything around it brighter -lights up the darkest skies. It brings fire and gives us some of the GREATEST photo ops.
There is lightening inside of every soul.
It can be scary in the middle of a storm, but you know what? I think it needs to be. Because the STORM is scary... the storm needs somebody it's own size.
And lightening is equal to the storm.
Do rainbows come after storms? Is there peace and tranquility?
People say so, but I generally find there's simply more storms. I also find there's more beauty in the rainy season than any other.